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6 June 2003 (Friday): summertime, an' the livin'

Sometimes all I want is a back porch, some stars, a glass of water and someone beside me, saying nothing at all.

posted by enjelani @ 11:39 AM PST

Replies: 12 comments

clink!

posted by soren @ 06 06 2003 01:45 PM PST

shhh... you're disturbing the peace.

posted by Liz @ 06 06 2003 03:57 PM PST

my back porch is funky ... but the front porch is a mighty pier out into the yard (seriously, like 20+ feet long) and the yard is fenced and full of trees, except right above the porch so you can look up. and to top if off i just bought a kiddie pool today for the dog and us to soak in on hot days.

another benefit to houses instead of apartments ;)

posted by mark s @ 06 06 2003 11:19 PM PST

my dog chewed and popped the kiddie pool that my dad bought for chilling in.
instead of someone beside me, a dog does just fine...

posted by Liz @ 08 06 2003 02:32 PM PST

Mystery #2: "...saying nothing at all". Why not? I think the value of companionship is in exchanging thoughts and comparing notes. I would only want someone beside me on a summer night if I find their mind more remarkable, more beautiful, more fascinating than the night and the stars.

posted by beefeater @ 08 06 2003 04:41 PM PST

I'm with beefeater at the moment... as cliche as it may sound, I wonder sometimes if a couple looses things to talk about... I'd trade a good handful of stars for some insightful comments.

posted by moonpuddle @ 10 06 2003 10:40 PM PST

a couple can run thin on conversation. and its not a bad thing. after over 9 years together the missus and i have heard each others stories. so thats out. we know how each other feels about things political and otherwise. so thats out. sure you can always find something to talk about, and sometimes its good deep conversation, and not about the relationship ;) . but then theres that ability to just be able to sit and chill together. to have those quiet times without feeling like you have to talk. sounds cliche i know, but i dont miss that awkward time while one of you attempts to entertain the other. those time you can just bask in the comfort. its not a bad thing.

posted by mark s @ 12 06 2003 07:45 AM PST

As much as I enjoy good conversation, I have to admit the possibility - nah, the reality - that it's quite possible to be so comfortable, infatuated, or in love with someone that no words are necessary. (not all at the same time, necessarily, and some certainly better than others)

I guess it's easy to think that love is all about spending 100% attention on the other person, all the time... but to be able to enjoy something else, together, breaks that boundary. It's a kind of freedom... being able to share the world with someone else, instead of being obligated to build it only around someone else, and vice-versa.

tch. I know nothing about this subject. I'll stop.

posted by m. mellow @ 12 06 2003 11:42 AM PST

I'm assuming the key word there was "sometimes." :)

posted by soren @ 12 06 2003 04:54 PM PST

aye. Absolutism isn't always :)

posted by m. mellow @ 12 06 2003 05:09 PM PST

"No need for words" is a good thing. "No desire for words" is... puzzling. Each day we face new challenges, discover new things, find new answers and ask new questions. Why not share the experience?

posted by beefeater @ 15 06 2003 10:30 AM PST

There's a back porch here, but it's covered with mosquitos and sand flies. :)

I just wanted to say hi. I can't do it via e-mail because Bimini can't reach echeng.com right now, for some reason. :( Poor me. hehehe.

I hope all is going well!

posted by echeng @ 16 06 2003 10:19 AM PST